No one ever wants to feel like a failure. When we make mistakes we hide them and only ever let them show once we’ve recovered and made it better.
It’s hard to admit that you’re wrong. It’s hard to tell people that you overestimated your abilities. Our egos and our pride don’t allow us to be comfortable with saying, “Hey guys. I messed up. I don’t know where I’m going from here but this is where I am now.”
But failing is all a part of being human. We can’t be superstars 24/7. We need our missteps to guide us in the right direction. There is no perfect individual out there and I think we all need to be more open with our limitations, as terrifying as it may be to do so.
This isn’t to say we should be glorifying mistakes, rather, we shouldn’t be turning away the people who make mistakes: we should be learning from them and appreciating their desire to change. As a result, I think we’ll all stop beating ourselves up over tiny shortcomings.
I was going through old journals and I had a page from March last year with nothing written on it, save for the words “be ruthless.”
I perceived ruthlessness as going after what you want at any cost. Willing yourself to cut out distractions and hurdles keeping you from success; whether that success be getting into grad school or getting a grilled cheese.
I thought it sounded inspirational and cute so I made this graphic, spending close to 45 minutes on it. Not gonna lie, the majority of that time was spent choosing fonts. I finished it, saved it, and only then did I think to look up the word ruthless. “Ruthless. Adj. Having or showing no compassion for others. Cruel.”
YIKES. Okay, that wasn’t exactly what I was going for. I really should have Googled that beforehand.
I don’t think you have to be cruel to others to get to the top, but you may have to be inwardly ruthless from time to time.
This year brings with it a great deal of uncertainty for myself and many other recently- and soon-to-be-graduated seniors. The rest of our lives start right now. Be ruthless in your endeavors but be as compassionate as you possibly can. They don’t have to be mutually exclusive.